Yoni eggs are a powerful way to practice self love and get in touch with your sacred feminine energies.
But I know that sometimes putting things down there can feel a little intimidating…
This guide on how to use yoni eggs will hopefully put all your fears, misconceptions and unanswered questions to rest!
When I first used a yoni egg I was quite frankly terrified to say the least.
I purchased my first egg from a crystal shop in Bali. It didn’t have any instructions with it and I kept it in its pouch for months before I worked up the courage to use it.
Was I supposed to clean it before I put it up there? How long was I supposed to leave it in for? How on earth was I going to get it out?
These were all questions that I had that I struggled to find the answers to. If only there was a guide on how to use yoni eggs at that time.
In the end there was a lot of research and trial and error on my part (I genuinely thought it was going to be stuck up there forever at one point).
But your first experience with using a yoni egg doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, it can be a beautiful and sacred experience.
So in this yoni egg guide I’m covering everything from where to buy a yoni egg, how to insert a yoni egg, how long to leave in a yoni egg, what to do while wearing your yoni egg, and more... so that you don’t have to go into this practice guessing.
So if you want to learn how to use a yoni egg once and for all then keep reading!
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What is a Yoni Egg?
Before we get into the nitty gritty of how to use your yoni egg, let’s cover the basics.
What actually is a yoni egg, and why is it called that?
Well, a yoni egg is a small smooth egg shaped stone or crystal, which is inserted into the vagina and worn for several holistic benefits (that we’ll cover in this post).
Why is it called a Yoni?
Yoni is a Sanskrit word, which is often used to describe the female sexual organs including the vagina and vulva, and occasionally the uterus.
It is a word that stems from ancient Hinduism and represents the goddess Shakti (divine feminine energy).
Why not just call it a vagina?
What you call your lady parts is totally up to you!
But for many people, Yoni is a word that helps to represent the sacredness of the female body much better than using Western medical terms.
And since the yoni egg practice itself is an ancient and spiritual one, the term “yoni” feels appropriate in this context.
What are the Benefits of Using a Yoni Egg?
Before you go rushing to get your hands on your first yoni egg, what are the benefits of this practice?
Well, there are actually a whole host of yoni egg benefits.
Though it’s worth bearing in mind that for the most part these are purely anecdotal and/or based on spiritual belief.
Therefore it’s best to go into using a yoni egg with an open mind and not expecting any life changing effects. And if you have any medical concerns relating to your yoni it’s always recommended to visit a gynaecologist.
But with that being said, here are some of the reported benefits of a regular yoni egg practice:
- Strengthens vaginal muscles
- Prevents and improves urinary incontinence
- Enhances sexual pleasure
- Intensifies orgasms
- Reduces menstrual cramps
- Promotes healing after childbirth
- Balances female hormones
- Helps to heal negative womb energy from trauma
- Stimulates healthy vaginal lubrication
- Gives metaphysical properties of crystal used
- Helps to develop a more sacred connection with your yoni
How Does a Yoni Egg Work?
Now, as I’ve just mentioned, many of these reported benefits are anecdotal.
But that doesn’t mean that they’re too good to be true!
Here are how yoni eggs are thought to work…
Physical body
Some of the yoni egg benefits we’ve just discussed (like stronger vaginal muscles, less incontinence, and lubricative effects) can be put down to the pelvic floor muscles.
The object inserted into your vagina causes the muscles to grip around it to hold it in place.
When yoni egg exercises (which are essentially kegal exercises) are incorporated, we increase blood flow and circulation in this area.
This helps to wake up and create more nerve endings. The result is increased sensation and an all round healthier and stronger yoni!
Think of a yoni egg like a much cleaner and more natural alternative to ben-wa balls!
Spiritual body
On a spiritual level, the practice of connecting to our sacred womb space is an act of self care and allows us to connect to our bodies on a more intimate level.
Many of us are out of touch with our sacred feminine energy – practices that encourage us to connect with our yonis allow us to tune into this powerful energy and intensify our chi (life force energy).
It is also thought that connecting to our yoni on a spiritual and somatic level can help us to release trauma that is stored there.
Not only this, but we can receive the healing energies from the crystals we choose and use particular stones to target certain aspects of ourselves that need rebalancing!
Related: the 7 Best Healing Crystals for Self Love
Are Yoni Eggs Safe?
But what about the flip side – are yoni eggs safe to use?
There are mixed views about whether or not yoni eggs are safe to use, and some gynaecologists may advise against using them. However, myself and many other users of yoni eggs have done so with no ill effects.
And in fact, many of the reported risks associated with yoni eggs (such as toxic shock syndrome and vaginal infections) can be prevented when following advice on how to use yoni eggs safely, as you will find in this yoni egg guide.
In my personal opinion, yoni eggs are perfectly safe to use and little different to inserting sex toys into the vagina (hello love eggs). In fact, suitable crystals, which we’ll cover shortly, may be an even safer alternative since they are natural and free from materials such as rubber and plastic.
Cheap yoni eggs are unlikely to be made from authentic material and therefore will not have the same beneficial properties for your yoni, and could potentially be harmful.
Therefore it is always recommended that you source your yoni egg from a reputable source. If the price of an egg seems too good to be true, it probably is.
This article offers some good insights into how to find safe and authentic yoni eggs.
And it must be noted that there are also some occasions where it is NOT safe to use a yoni egg...
When You Shouldn’t Use a Yoni Egg:
- If you have a vaginal infection e.g. a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis
- If you have a urinary tract infection
- If you have a sexually transmitted infection/outbreak
- During pregnancy (unless agreed by a medical professional)
- During your menstrual cycle
- If you have an IUD
Choosing The Right Yoni Egg for You
So with that being said, how do you choose an egg that is both safe and right for you?
Choosing a yoni egg is a sacred process in itself, but it needn’t be daunting.
To take the pressure off, here are some answers to some common questions that you might have about choosing your yoni egg!
How Do I Choose My Size?
Yoni eggs typically come in three sizes – small (25x35mm), medium (30x43mm) and large (35x50mm).
Despite what you might assume, the size you use has little to do with the size of your vagina and more to do with the strength of your vaginal muscles.
Although you might be tempted to start with a smaller egg because it is less daunting, it is actually more beneficial for beginners to start with a larger egg and work their way down sizes in time.
This is because larger eggs are easier for the vaginal muscles to grip on to. Smaller eggs are better suited to advanced practitioners with more muscle dexterity.
If you’re unsure of which size to purchase, it is generally a good option to start out with a medium sized egg, unless you are aware of having a particularly weak pelvic floor.
If you’re a complete beginner or have previously given birth, it might be an option for you to purchase all three sizes so you can get to know your body and adjust the egg you use over time.
Which Crystal Should I Use?
What crystal you use is entirely up to you, and should be based on your intuition and which crystal you feel most called to.
Traditionally in Taoist teaching, the woman starts out using a Jade egg, before moving onto Black Obsidian to work with the shadow self followed by Rose Quartz to open her heart.
It is not essential to do it in this order, however it is recommended for beginners to start out with a Jade egg due to its healing and physical properties.
It is also important to note that not every crystal should be inserted into your yoni. Crystals have different levels of hardiness and more porous stones are not safe for wearing inside the vagina.
I’d recommend referring to this post for advice on safe crystals to use.
Here are the benefits of commonly used crystal eggs:
Nephrite Jade
- Associated with the heart chakra
- Very hard, durable and non porous
- Very healing for feminine energies
- A good weightiness for kegal exercises
- High thermal conductivity (easy to warm)
Black Obsidian
- Associated with the root chakra
- Protective stone that deflects negative energy
- Helps to release trauma and energy stored in the womb
- Good for grounding
- Hard, smooth and non porous
Rose Quartz
- Associated with the heart chakra
- Helps with unconditional love and relationships
- Calming and soothing
- Helps with circulation and skin issues
- Good for fertility
Amethyst
- Associated with the third eye chakra
- Assists in achieving a meditative state
- Good for healing from grief or loss
- Cleanses negative energy
- Supports the emotional body
Carnelian
- Associated with the sacral chakra
- Boosts confidence and creativity
- Stimulates sex drive
- Enhances optimism to face fear or trauma
- Helps with emotion regulation
What is the Difference Between a Drilled and Undrilled Yoni Egg?
A drilled egg has a small hole drilled through the tip of the egg. This is to allow for string to be threaded through in order to easily retrieve the egg from the yoni.
Many beginners wish to use a drilled egg at first in order to feel assured that there will be no difficulty in removal.
In fact, the very first time I used a yoni egg I used an undrilled one and I went into panic mode when my egg wasn’t coming out easily. Therefore I tend to recommend beginners use a drilled one to prevent this panic (which makes it harder for your vaginal muscles to release the egg!)
However, undrilled eggs are completely safe and easily removed once you know how. You may wish to move on to an undrilled egg once you get more comfortable with your yoni.
Will a Drilled Egg Affect the Energy of the Crystal?
The short answer is no.
Although it is understandable why someone might consider this, a small hole in the crystal will not affect its metaphysical properties in any way! It is simply a matter of preference over the removal process.
Where to Buy Yoni Eggs
As previously mentioned, it is important that you purchase your yoni egg from a reputable source.
Love Stone is one such company that I trust. They source authentic high quality crystals to make beautiful yoni eggs and massage wands.
At the heart of their mission is empowering women to celebrate the feminine and get in touch with their bodies, awaken sensuality and cultivate more self love!
These “goddess” yoni eggs” come in three different sizes of Nephrite Jade, Black Obsidian and Rose Quartz – they are perfect for beginners and align with Taoist practices!
All of their yoni eggs also have the option to be drilled or undrilled depending on your personal preference.
You can check out the rest of Love Stone’s beautiful range here!
How to Use a Yoni Egg
So now that we’ve got the basics out of the way, let’s dive into how to use a yoni egg both safely and effectively.
Because using a yoni egg doesn’t have to be a difficult feat. And knowing the ins and outs of how to use yoni eggs will ensure that you don’t have any issues like I did when first starting this practice.
The following section should clear up any uncertainties you may have about using your egg…
How Do I Clean My Yoni Egg?
First and foremost, before you use your yoni egg it is important that you clean it.
Your yoni is a delicate area and your new egg is likely to have touched many hands before making its way to you. The last thing you want to be putting in or near your yoni is something unclean!
To clean your yoni egg thoroughly, simply wash it with warm water and organic, unscented soap for sensitive skin.
Then bring a pot of water to the boil and allow it to cool enough that it would not burn your skin if you put your finger in it. Once at this temperature, place your yoni egg in the water and allow to soak for about 15 minutes.
You may choose to add a couple of drops of tea tree oil to the water to kill bacteria further. This method should be used before first use or for more thorough cleaning e.g. if you drop your egg into the toilet or begin your menstrual cycle.
It is important that you do not place your egg into boiling water as it may cause the egg to crack.
Before and after each use you should wash your egg with soap and warm water.
If you have a drilled egg, you should take steps to ensure that the hole is clean and free of any fluid after use. You can do this by running water through the passage and blowing through the hole. Easy!
Clearing/Charging Your Yoni Egg
This step is optional but many women may wish to clear their yoni eggs of any negative energy and charge them like you would other crystals.
This can be done by placing the egg in a bowl of water and sea salt. The bowl can then be left outside to soak up the energy from the sun or light of the full moon.
You may also wish to smudge your yoni egg with sage or palo santo!
How to String Your Yoni Egg
If you’ve bought a drilled egg then you’re going to first want to string it.
Stringing your egg is simple with these actionable steps:
- Cut an amount of string approximately 15″ long
- Fold the string in half
- Thread the two ends through the drilled hole in your egg
- Thread the two ends through the loop created until pulled tight
- Tie the loose ends in a knot
This video beautifully demonstrates the process of how to string your yoni egg.
What Kind of String Should I Use?
Believe it or not, dental floss is a good option to string your yoni egg, so long as it is unwaxed and unscented. This is because it is very durable and has low risk of fibers coming off into your yoni.
Alternatively, you may wish to use unbleached and non-dyed silk thread or hemp twine if you prefer something a bit more natural.
Just make sure you change your string after each use as it is porous and can harbour bacteria!
How to Insert a Yoni Egg
How you insert your yoni egg is a practice that will be sacred to you as an individual.
However, you can use these tips to begin your practice and get a feel for the process!
1. Set your sacred space
Before inserting your yoni egg, it may help to set up a sacred space and intention so that you can relax and be fully present in the moment.
Take whatever steps you need to make sure your space is is sacred to you. This might mean lighting some candles or incense, dimming the lights or playing some soothing music. This will be different for everybody.
It is also up to you if you choose to be nude or wear loose comfortable clothing such as a skirt or a dress.
2. Apply some lubricant
Lubrication helps to soften the yoni tissues and makes it easier for the egg to slide in without discomfort.
You can use any lubricant of choice, but a good option to use is organic extra virgin coconut oil.
This is because it is completely natural and has antibacterial and antifungal properties, which helps to keep our delicated vaginal microbiome in balance.
3. Warming up
It is important that you are in a state of relaxation before inserting your egg. In the sacred space you have created, lay down in a position that is comfortable for you.
To warm up the body for inserting the yoni egg, you might give yourself a sensual massage as an act of self love, tuning into the sensations you feel in your body.
Many women will massage their breasts and/or yoni gently in order to arouse sexual energy.
You can also physically warm up your egg by holding it and rubbing it between your hands. This will make sure it’s not too cold before inserting!
4. Gently insert the egg
When you feel ready to insert your egg, gently use the larger end to massage your yoni until you feel an opening sensation.
Then keeping the egg at the entrance of your yoni, move in a way that feels good for you and allow your yoni to accept the egg.
It is important that you don’t force the egg inside – we are working with the energy of our yonis to accept the egg in a way that feels good!
The egg does not need to be pushed all the way up to the cervix like a tampon. Instead, once the egg is past the yoni entrance, remove contact with your hands and allow your yoni to bring it to a place that is comfortable, similar to a menstrual cup.
This video offers a beautiful description of how to insert a yoni egg.
Wearing Your Yoni Egg
It is up to you what you choose to do once you are wearing your yoni egg. You may choose to simply go about your daily activities.
However, if you are a beginner you may find that it is difficult to keep the egg inside the yoni while standing or moving. Therefore you might prefer to remain sitting or lying down until you become stronger in your practice.
Here are some great options of ways to use your time while wearing your yoni egg and honour your yoni practice.
Meditation
Meditation is a simple yet powerful way to connect with your yoni practice.
With your egg inside you, sit in a comfortable seated position. Use a zafu meditation cushion for assistance with maintaining a straight spine.
Close your eyes and place your hands around your yoni area. Meditate on this area, focusing on any sensations that come up for you.
You may choose to incorporate sacral chakra affirmations to work on unblocking any energy within this area.
If you’re new to meditation, it may help to check out our beginners meditation guide to help get you started!
Exercises To Do with a Yoni Egg
If you get to a stage in your practice where you feel comfortable wearing your egg and ready to incorporate some movement, these exercises are great options to try!
1. Kegal Exercises
Kegal exercises are the most common exercises women do while wearing a yoni egg. These exercises are intended to cause your yoni muscles to clench around the egg, in time strengthening them and activating nerve endings.
Kegal exercises are performed by contracting the muscles for a short time followed by releasing and relaxing. Many practitioners recommend 10 seconds of contraction followed by 10 seconds of relaxation.
If you’re unsure of how to contract your yoni muscles, try to imagine yourself holding in your urine mid flow. This action will help you to engage the yoni muscles.
If you struggle at first this is okay. Over time, with the help of your egg, your yoni muscles will strengthen and these exercises will become easier.
2. Squats
Start in a standing position with your feet slightly wider than hip width distance apart.
Slowly bend your knees as if you were sitting on a chair, taking care not to let your knees come forward past your toes (you should be able to see your toes).
Once your thighs are parallel to the floor, engage the glute muscles and ground down through the heels to push yourself up back to standing.
3. Bridge
Lie on your back, bend your knees and place your feet hip width distance apart at a 90 degree angle.
Ground down through your feet and raise your hips up in the air while engaging your pelvic floor muscles. Hold this position before gently lowering down.
4. Leg Lifts
Lie on your back with your legs extended and place your hands under your tailbone to keep your lower back engaged with the floor.
Slowly raise your legs until they are extended with feet in the air. Hold this position before gently lowering down.
How Long Should I Leave a Yoni Egg In?
One of the most common yoni egg questions that people want to know the answer to how long to leave in a yoni egg.
To begin your yoni egg practice, it is important to start off slow. It is a good idea to only leave your egg in for 15-30 minutes to get a feel for it and see how your yoni responds.
Over time you can increase how long you wear your egg for, but remember to honour your yoni if she seems tired and wants rest.
Sleeping With a Yoni Egg
Many experienced practitioners choose to sleep with their egg inside them.
It is worth noting that although this seems like relaxing way to connect with your yoni, sleeping with a yoni egg can bring emotions stored in your yoni to the surface and create vivid dreams and mood swings. This is particularly true when using an obsidian egg!
This is not necessarily a bad thing and can be a great way to work with your subconscious. Just make sure you are prepared for it.
From a physical point of view, leaving your yoni egg in for this extended period of time may not be recommended however.
In general, the same advice for how long to leave tampons in also applies to yoni eggs – no more than 8-10 hours.
And in actual fact, leaving your yoni egg in overnight also won’t have the benefits for your kegals that you might expect, as your yoni is having to clench continually without releasing.
Is Cramping Normal?
It is normal to experience some mild aching after using your yoni egg, since your yoni muscles have had a workout and perhaps engaged in ways they are not used to.
Cramping on the other hand could be a sign that you left the yoni egg in a bit too long and the muscles are more fatigued.
It is important to honour your yoni with rest and not engage in any further exercises or sexual activity until any aching or cramping subsides.
However, sharp intense pain or more notable cramping could be a sign of a physical condition and should not be ignored. If you experience this level of discomfort, it is important that you seek help from a medical professional.
Releasing the Egg
This is the part that scares most people – but rest assured that your yoni egg cannot get stuck inside you.
If you are using a drilled egg, use the string to gently pull out the yoni egg while simultaneously bearing down with your pelvic floor muscles.
If you are using an undrilled egg the easiest way is to get in a squatting position.
Bear down with your pelvic floor muscles until the egg releases itself from your yoni, or is low enough that you can retrieve it using your hand.
The most important advice I can give you is not to panic if your yoni egg doesn’t come out straight away. Keep breathing and relaxing and you will release the egg.
How Will I Feel After Using a Yoni Egg?
How you feel after using the egg will vary greatly depending on each person.
Some people may feel intense energy shifts, while others may not feel anything at all. It is important to remember that every body and energy system responds differently, but the crystal is still working it’s magic.
And that completes my ultimate yoni egg guide!
I hope that this guide has provided you with the guidance you need on how to use a yoni egg, as well as answering any other questions you may have had beforehand.
Remember, your yoni egg practice is your own sacred ritual and you can take or leave any of the tips that I’ve given from my own personal experience. Have fun exploring your body and connecting with your yoni in this sacred way!
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Esther is the founder of Through the Phases, a wellbeing and healthy lifestyle blog dedicated to sharing mind/body/soul practices for self-exploration, healing, and fulfilment. She has a degree in Psychology, is yoga teacher trained (200hr), and is currently pursuing a Neuroscience MSc to further study the mind-body connection. Read more about her story here.