The Act As If Technique to Manifest Your Dreams

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If you’re learning about the Law of Attraction, you may have heard that the secret to manifesting your desires is to “think positive” or something along those lines...

(If you’re yet to learn about the Law of Attraction, head over to this post for an in-depth explanation)

The truth is, the Law of Attraction is SO much more than that (as you’ll learn in the Breakthrough Manifestation workbook), and one of many other factors that play an important part is what’s known as the “act as if technique”. 

As you’ll hear me stress time and time again, thoughts aren’t enough to manifest your desires. Action is what makes things happen.

Repeat after me: action is what makes things happen.

So this post is dedicated to one particular type of action - acting as if. Let’s talk about the power of acting as if and how you can incorporate this technique into your Law of Attraction practice.

“Act as if” meaning

So what exactly does it mean to “act as if”? Essentially, this means that to attract something into our lives we have to act as if we already have it.

It’s a bit of a paradox (something we tackle in Breakthrough Manifestation) but it is super powerful when you can get it right. 

It’s important to note that this isn’t the same as “faking it ‘til you make it”. I’m not a huge fan of that approach since I believe it creates underlying resistance, since you are not in alignment with your true self.

We’re not faking anything here and we’re not trying to convince ourselves that we have something that we know deep down that we don’t actually have.

I don’t know about you, but if I tried that approach I’d definitely have a little voice in my head saying “well… that’s not true”. 

Instead what we’re doing is stepping out of our comfort zone and embodying the energy of what we want to attract. Remember… the Law of Attraction is 100% based on energy.

And what’s the easiest way to get in energetic alignment with the thing we want to attract? It’s to act as if we already have it. 

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The 3 step act as if technique

In 3 stages, you can learn how to “act as if you already have it” so you can get closer to becoming a magnet for your desires. Let’s dive right in!

Step 1: Become aware of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions

The first stage of acting as if is becoming self aware and getting to know your feelings, thoughts and emotions. 

Self awareness is THE most important factor in spiritual and personal growth. If we’re not aware of our thoughts and emotions, how are we supposed to transform them and become better versions of ourselves?

My favorite tool for developing self awareness is journaling. Daily journaling is a super introspective activity that allows you to dive into your subconscious and really get to know the inner you. 

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If you’re not already journaling daily, I’d encourage you to start now - a great place to start is using self discovery journal prompts that are designed to help you reveal your inner workings.

But since we’re trying to manifest here, it’s important that you get to know your feelings, thoughts and emotions about this desire in particular.

With your desire in mind, ask yourself the following questions:

  • What is holding me back from manifesting X?
  • What is my biggest fear in regards to X?
  • What does my inner voice tell me about X?
  • Am I showing up like a person who has X? If not, what is out of alignment?
  • Do I truly believe I’m capable of manifesting X?

Your answers to these questions should help you gain insight into the way you feel about manifesting your desire and what areas you might need to change in order to start acting as if. 

Step 2: Align your actions with your desires

The next stage and the core of this practice is to start aligning your actions with your desires, or in other words - act as if. 

I find that the easiest way to practice this is to put yourself out of your shoes for a second and ask yourself “how would a person with X act?”.

The answer to this question will guide the changes you can make to get in alignment with your desires. 

Here are some areas of your life that you might want to look at specifically: 

How you speak

“How would a person with X speak?”

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Start to become aware of the language you’re using with yourself and in your conversations with others relating to your desire. Is this in line with somebody who already has this desire?

Remember, acting as if isn’t about faking anything.

So for example, if you’re trying to manifest money this wouldn’t be a case of going around telling everybody you’re rich... because a) that wouldn’t be true and b) it’s unlikely that this is how a person with your desire would act.

That’s why I think bringing things back to the question prompt is so helpful - using money as an example, how would a person with X amount of money speak?

Well… they’d probably not be complaining about money for one, and it’s unlikely that they’d use negative language surrounding money or their bank balance. 

This is just one example and this will be unique to your desire, but the point is to become aware of the language you’re using, and how you can change this to be more in alignment with what you want to attract.

How you present yourself

“How would a person with X present themselves?”

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Presentation will mean different things to different people, but some common areas that you might look at are the clothes you wear, your makeup, your hairstyle or even something like your posture.

My key advice here is to keep it in line with who you are at the core. Don’t try to be somebody you’re not!

This is something I struggled with a couple of years ago after I got it into my head that a “spiritual person” (whatever that means) shouldn’t wear makeup, should wear baggy clothes and should be “natural”. 

I started trying to fit this image when this wasn’t really me; I’m naturally very expressive with my appearance and I prefer a more dark and “moody” look than a hippie one - that’s just who I am! *shrugs*

When I was trying to be something I wasn’t, I felt sooo out of alignment and that is not the way to attract your desires. Trust me.

Instead, you want to always bring it back to you. To bring some clarity to what this means, we’ll say we’re trying to manifest confidence as an example. 

What you wouldn’t do:

Decide that all confident people seem to be people with blonde hair and blue eyes, so you dye your hair and start wearing contact lenses.

What you might do:

Come to the conclusion that a confident person would wear what they want to without fear of what others think, so you start wearing that outfit you love that you’ve never been brave enough to wear before.

How you treat money

“How would a person with X treat money?”

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This example is only really relevant if you’re trying to manifest money, but this is a common manifestation so it’s worth a mention!

Let’s say you’re trying to manifest $50000 - how would a person with this amount of money treat money?

Would they:

  • Avoid looking at their bank account through fear?
  • Avoid investing money in themselves or their business?

Well, I’d say that’s unlikely.

Start becoming aware of any unhealthy habits you may have in relation to money and how this might be holding you back from getting into alignment.

Check out how to become a money magnet for more details about getting into alignment with your money manifestation.

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How you spend your time

“How would a person with X spend their time?”

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Many of us don’t use our time as productively as we could, but how we spend our time could even be sending out the wrong idea on an energetic level.

Bringing our awareness to how we spend our time and making healthy adjustments can be enough to switch up our vibration and get us into alignment with our desires.

Would a successful person spend their time laying on the sofa watching Netflix all day? Probably not, unless it was their dedicated day off (No judgment btw, we’re all guilty of this sometimes).

Remember, manifestation comes from action… so what could you change about how you spend your time so that it’s more action oriented and directed towards manifesting your goals?

Those who are successful in their field don’t spend most of their time sitting around wishing to become successful, they spend most of their time taking action to make it happen.

How you treat others

“How would a person with X treat others?”

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How you treat others has a huge impact on the energy you’re putting out, and it isn’t a factor that should be ignored. 

We’re all connected on an energetic level, and if we want to attract good things then we need to put out good things.

We learn as children to “treat others how you wish to be treated” and it’s my opinion that this is how we should live our entire lives.

If we want to attract loving people into our lives, we need to start showing up and treating others with love, respect and compassion.

Please only take the positives from this though… if you know somebody with a lot of money who treats other people horribly, this doesn’t mean you should go and treat other people horribly too.

Trust that karma will come back around to that person and choose kindness, always.

How you show up

“How would a person with X show up?”

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This comes back to what actions we’re taking in our lives to align with our goals. If we want to attract our desires, we need to make sure that we’re showing up in our lives to become a magnet for them.

This means that it isn’t enough to just show up - how are we showing up?

For example, let’s say you wanted to manifest your dream job as a writer. Would you just write a half hearted article and call it a day? I mean… you wrote the article sooo technically you showed up, right?

But did you show up to your fullest potential? Did you show up as a successful writer would have? Probably not.

Instead, you’d put your whole heart into something and do the best possible job that you know you could have done.

You’d show up fully because otherwise, what’s the point in showing up at all?

How you make decisions

“How would a person with X make decisions?”

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The problem with making decisions is that our decisions are very often led by fear, but if we allow this to happen then we’re not allowing ourselves to be in alignment with our desires.

It comes down to how much you want your desire... are you committed to making decisions that will bring you into alignment with your desire, no matter how scary they may seem?

This brings me back to a meeting I had with my supervisor in my final year of university. I was talking with him about my desire to work as an assistant psychologist, a position that is highly competitive among graduate psychology students (especially in and around London).

He turned and said to me - “You can do it, but you have to be willing to move across the country if the opportunity arises… if it’s what you really want to do.”


The thought of this terrified me. The truth is, I wasn’t willing to do this, this was a far too scary prospect for me to do alone and as it turns out, I figured out this wasn’t the route I wanted to go down.

But, had this been my true desire this is a decision that I would have to be willing to make to get me there.

So the point is, how far are you willing to travel to make your desires come true? Not just in the literal sense, but how far are you willing to travel out of your comfort zone?

Are you letting fear guide your decisions, or are you choosing to act as if?

Step 3: Let go

Letting go is a step that I will always add to any step-by-step manifestation process, because it is so important.

Attachment is one of the biggest blocks to manifesting and unless you let go of your attachment to your desire, you will unknowingly create resistance to attracting it.

Let go of any feeling of “need” and know that all will be well even if you don’t have your desire. This is another paradox about manifesting.

Now, I know that this is one of the hardest parts for most of us. Letting go isn’t an easy process when you have a strong desire or when your current situation is undesirable. 

For that reason, I included an entire chapter about how to let go in Breakthrough Manifestation that provides a strategy for releasing your desires that anybody can follow. It’s really not as difficult once you know how!

Now you have the foundation, you can start practicing the act as if technique in your own manifestation routine to see how it shifts your reality.

Let me know of any difficulties you have with putting this into practice or if you’ve seen any changes after implementing this!

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About Esther

Esther is the founder of Through the Phases.  Her mission is to guide others to grow to their full potential and create their dream life using spiritual and personal growth practices. Read more about her story here!

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